This book is written by a man, from his perspective, and is a huge eye opener for any woman who has ever been stuck in the limbo of a relationship that they alone are trying to save.
Girls, and guys for that matter, this is a must read. I highly recomend it.
To all of the women out there who have ever heard the following from a man they were in love with: “I was too busy to call you when I said I was going to.” “I just need some time to figure things out for me.” “I love you, but I can’t be there when you need me to.” “I’m not ready for this level of commitment.”
There are hundreds of things guys say to girls when they just don’t want to tell them that they aren’t the “ONE”. The big secret is that men would rather loose a limb than be the bad guy, they would rather drag out a relationship that they don’t want so that they don’t have to be the one who is wrong, or the one who does the hurting. The simple fact is that men can’t be the bad guy, and will continue in a dead end relationship because they don’t have the guts to end it and hurt you.
Excerpt from 'He's Just Not That Into You'
By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
The "Maybe He Doesn't Want to Ruin the Friendship" Excuse
Dear Greg,
I'm so disappointed. I have this friend that I've known platonically for about ten years. He lives in a different city and recently he was in town for work, so we met for dinner. All of a sudden it felt like we were on a date. He was completely flirting with me. He even said to me, as he was checking me out, "So, what, you're working the whole 'model thing' now?" (That's flirting, right?) We both agreed that we should get together again soon. Well, Greg, I'm disappointed because it's been two weeks and he hasn't called me. Can I call him? He might be nervous about turning the friendship into romance. Can't I give him a nudge now? Isn't that what friends are for?
Jodi
Dear Friendly Girl,
Two weeks is two weeks, except when it's ten years and two weeks. That's how long ago he decided whether or not he could date a model or a girl who looks like one. Can you be a pal and give him a nudge? Nudge away, friendster — but watch how fast that nudge doesn't get a return phone call. And if your dinner/date did feel different to him, it's been two weeks and he's had time to think about it and decide he's just not that into you. Here's the truth: Guys don't mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a "Fuck buddy" situation or a meaningful romance. Go find someone that lives in your zip code who will be rocked to the core by your deep conversation and model looks.
I hate to tell you, but that whole "I don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise. Sex could mess up a friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. If we're really excited about someone, we can't stop ourselves — we want more. If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to want to take it further. And please, don't tell me he's just "scared." The only thing he's scared of — and I say this with a lot of love — is how not attracted to you he is.
